Disqualification and social Victory!

This whole concept is happening every night, do you know people are  talking about you?

Disqualification is a concept based on the idea of lowering all social value of everyone else in your social area/perimeter by challenging your new acquaintance to a observational game, subsequently raising you’revalue. This is not to be confused with acting in an unsociable manor or verbally attacking others, this idea is a playful challenge to utilise when out socialising.

Firstly let us pause to think about what social value is and how it can help us in the dating world. To demonstrate your high value, is to demonstrate that you are worth acknowledging and that you have value to offer your desired individual. This is also known as ‘DHV’. It may be small comment expressing how you’re career focused and ambitious or that you have family that you protect and that you can protect your friends as well, in a non-physical manor of course. Value can be anything that you have to offer such as time,knowledge, adventure or even good company.

Continuing on to disqualification, the technique originated from old market sales when the weekly market was a competitive business. Market holders use to belittle other market stools and merchants to costumers as a means of gaining there custom instead of talking more about their own stools and products.

 The concept of disqualification was transferred over to social interaction as a means of lowering social value of others instead of trying to increase their own, which can be seen as being arrogant on occasion. There are ways to raise your own personal value without appearing arrogant but we will save that for another blog.

The method for disqualification would be to express to the person of interest you are talking to, how you and your friends are more fun,playful and charismatic in comparison to the others around you by clearly stating that fact. My favourite few examples of this are:

* “I will introduce you to anybody in this venue and I can guarantee they are not as fun or good company as me and my friends.”

Or

* "Let's go meet some new friends together and see who's fun."

If you and your friends have created an inviting world and are clearly having genuine fun, the positive atmosphere you will have created is easily visible to an outside perspective therefore the chance are (more often than not) after you state the comment to your new acquaintance or friend,they will not ask for you to prove it. On the rare occasion that they do (and this is more fun) you can go, and approach some more groups and introduce you both to some more people.

  Some more example of disqualification are:

* “ Isn’t it amazing how all the men/women here dress like each other and wear the same type of clothes, come to think off it so do the women/men.Well that’s boring."

* “ Ok, so who do you think the weirdest man/women is here.”

These disqualifications are slightly more direct but, and believe me when I say this, these types of gossip based lines are being used all the time by different people, even about you and your friends. Indecently what these comments are doing is subconsciously telling the person spoke to, to actually look around and find the weirdest/ugliest/boring person around you. Therefore when found immediately lowering their value and everyone else who has come into the line of sight when looking for the weirdest/ugliest/boring person.

This is just one simple way of raising your social value when out and about. Please do however remember the simple rule when socialising and trying to meet new people. Whether you’re out to make new friends meet some one to date or even for the cheeky bit of excitement, remember to allows be polite and non-aggressive and have fun.

Thanks for reading !!