Alpha Characteristic’s And portraying your Tribal leader Status

The alpha characteristic is the attribute an individual portrays in any given social situation of leadership. More importantly becoming an alpha male or alpha female becomes a life style change.

Firstly, lets explore the concept of leadership and how a leader acts. A leader is a;

•          A protector,
•          A provider,
•          A friend,
•          A decision maker,
•          A healthy being who is desired.

These traits that umbrella off from the alpha characteristic are important to portray when expressing and sharing your personality in social scenarios. But why? Because these specific traits help demonstrate a successful partner for dating which of course is attractive to most people so let’s see what these traits actually portray;

•          Protection,
•          Safety
•          Fun and enjoyment,
•         Social status,
•          Healthy offspring
•          Adventure

In this blog we will investigated the three main traits to focus on well making that step towards showing and becoming the alpha. These are; Health, Wealth and Friendships.

                               

These are the three qualities’ an individual will subconsciously look for in their search for a partner. Whilst we continue into more detail these traits, it would help to have an evolutionary psychological perspective and think back to a time where survival was the main aim. Between the three attributes they cover all survival needs required from both sex perspectives.

So moving on with the details lets now together breakdown healthiness in socializing and dating.

Being healthy and representing a healthy lifestyle is actually very easy and cost virtual no money. When we are talking about portraying healthiness we are referring to a healthy life style and a hygienic personal cleanliness.  Being healthy on the inside will show and shine through on the outside, especially when social interacting. Showing good health will reassure others that you may produce a healthy offspring and maintain a healthy relationship. A very attractive trait to possess as mentioned previously. If you eat well and drink lots of water your skin will become radiant and therefore looks healthier. You will get less spots, less blackheads a healthy shin of skin. Shower and exercise regularly. Remember going for a walk is good exercise, you don’t have to go to the gym and commit to membership; just get some fresh air and rays of sun. Small life choices like these can instantly and easily be seen by others or even shared by your-self in conversation when meeting new people.  This will encourage others to complement you also. All validation from others increases your overall confidence as a person and we all do want to date a healthy partner.

Continuing on, lets now breakdown wealth and the perception and truth about expressing wealth.

Being wealthy has very little to do with money, just a perception. This small comment and truth is one of the most important things about social interaction that people seem to miss, so for the sake of this blog let us repeat this comment and truly acknowledge and appreciate it.

“Being wealthy has very little to do with money, just a perception.”

When an individual is successful in terms of finances and ambition, his partner will also feel prosperous, due to their shared achievements, a decent financial background, a well-paid career, a nice car and big house again shows protection, fun, safety, adventure. However and this is important. There comes a time in a relationship where the long term plans and financial securities becomes an important conversation to have when dating however, this is generally after the first year of dating (in my personal opinion) as certainly is not relevant until then.

So let’s now look at simple cost effective ways of portraying a wealthy and prosperous you. Simple and small things like ironing your clothes, dressing smart and keeping your shoes polished or clean can give your appearance a sense of wellbeing. Wearing jewelry and small accessories can also show and expose how you have disposable income; I like to wear wooden beads on my wrist. Also wearing aftershave or perfume also shows disposable income as well as expressing a sense of health and cleanliness. These are all important for the initial first meet and impression as you appear to demonstrate subtle wealth. This wealth signifies a sense of security and a prospecting future and this is very attractive as an alpha characteristic.

And finally lets explore Friendships and relationships with others.

By surrounding yourself with friends and new acquaintances, you will portray popularity. This in turn is attractive as again it shows security. Through having many friends your survival skills substantially increases due to your ability to protect. This is a trait that shows you’re sociably accepted henceforth obtaining more attention through validation also. Not being aggressive with others and understanding and listening will help any conversation with people more fluent. Taking the time to be polite to staff and making a lasting impression will also help to express that social acceptance. The simple aim weather going out with friends you already have or going out to make new friends is to be likeable. This doesn’t mean change your opinions and beliefs to match others, its just simply mean to be sympathetic, empathetic and understanding when conversing with others.

For Example:

Van Wilder is a fictional character within a film whom is portrayed as a selfless man willing to help others such as the failing sports team. What makes him appealing is that he does it out of charity and gives his time to others and therefore is respected and loved by all in the college. If you have not seen the film Van Wilder I do recommend watching it.

You don’t have to help everyone in your town or throw money at people to buy friends, however you can be generous with your time through performing good deeds.

•         Help someone who has just dropped their bag
•   Help a neighbour with the shopping from their car
•   Support causes around your town you agree with like charities

All of the above are small noble deeds which take as little as five minutes but will be remembered for a lifetime subsequently talked about by others, thus increasing your popularity.

These are all simple ideas shared towards being and showing your alpha characteristic when socializing and all of us have the recourses to do so and portray to others that we are ALPHA MALES or ALPHA FEMALES.

Thanks for reading guys and girls and have a wicked week. Love you all, Daz

A guide to "Wingmanship"

Hello Icarus here.

Its been a few weeks since you have heard from me due to some exciting real life developments. Mr Rudman in his wisdom has asked me to provide a quick guide on the subject of wingman-ship.

For those not in the know a "Wingman" is a term used for a friend of the same sex as you who's job is to help you achieve a particular objective within a social experience. This can range from helping you "open a set" (Talking to random people) To kissing someone you may have found attractive during the night out.

The wingman is a sacred position and one that should not be taken lightly as you have the power to make or break new relationships very easily. The best way to play this role is to develop the skills necessary and always portray them. Not only will they make you an excellent wing but they will also make you a very well liked and approachable person. Furthermore, excellent wingman-ship is always paid back so expect any action you take to be repaid in the future.

So what are the traits needed to be a great wing? There are a few characteristics that make winging easier and if you posses them you are on to a great start. If you don't then don't panic as there are ways to practise till you do have them.

• A sense of empathy. 
• A Mutual respect with your wing. 
• Personal knowledge of your wing.
• An ability to "Take one for the team"
• Either hold your alcohol or know when its appropriate to drink.

As you can see from the above list its not exactly rocket science. The important thing to remember when selecting your wing or offering to be a wing is to remember that you are there to help each other. There will be times when as a wing you are expected to place your experience after the person you are winging but again this will be repaid in time.


While I have listed the positive attributes necessary to become a great wing, I would also like to list the negatives that will result in a BAD wing.

• Jealousy
• Attention seeker
• Someone who physically intimidates others to promote themselves

Again the above list is pretty self explanatory. If you are the kind of person who gets upset at not being the centre of attention you will not be very good as a wing as your job is to make someone else the centre of attention. This is a great time to get a handle on these negative characteristics not only for the purposes of winging but also to encourage a healthier personality.

So now we have the personality traits necessary we just need to go about being a great wing. A good place to start in any social circumstance is the opener or initiating a conversation. You can use your wing to deflate any awkwardness that may arise from you approaching a new set of people.

Open a set without your wing, deliver a false time constraint, an opener and root the conversation. At this point your wing should walk in and use this opportunity to provide some DHV. A good one I commonly use is "Hey guys how you doing? I see you have met Daz, you lucky people! He's one of the most charming legendary people I know!"

This is a bit over the top but I generally calibrate it to the group I am in. This is a more high energy group where exaggeration is commonplace and not taken seriously.

For a lower energy group you could use something like this.

"Hello guys. Daz sorry to interrupt mate but I wanted to say thanks for that massive favour you did for me the other day. What can I get you to drink?"

This may seem like you are being subservient or of lower value than your friend after you have offered to buy a drink but when the wing goes to get the drink you should be building him up as a pay back saying something like. "Oh he's a great guy one of the very best, we always know we can rely on each other and that is the kind of friendships I enjoy nurturing."

This will provide a few things, namely that you attract good people, that you are a high value friend that people will willingly do things for and that you willingly do things for other people.

Imagine that is you... Who doesn't want a friend like that?

I feel like I've gone on a bit now so I will leave this here if there is any more information that you need or want to learn more about the noble art of wingman-ship then please don't hesitate to drop me or Daz a line and I will try and answer any questions he pushes my way.

Until then, Fly safe!

Icarus

Yes I am aware of the irony of the sign off and my pseudo-name :/